Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Training ... of some sort

Hague training has commenced! However, we've decided to direct our attention away from potty training and focus on a more urgent matter - sleep training.
Toddler bed ...
... is made for jumping!
Kambry started out in her new bed ...
... and then, as usual, she wasn't there in the morning.

But Kaeleb loved his toddler bed! (he only fell out once)Okay, so it's no secret that I haven't had an uninterrupted night's sleep since September 2004. First there was the anticipation of bringing our baby Kayden home, then there were the escalating night terrors. It was during this time of rocking and praying her to sleep that we formed a lifelong bond. About the time she developed a good sleep pattern two years later, Kambry was coming home. There's just too much life going on for her to sleep, then came Kaeleb, who is a great sleeper. Kaeleb has been in a pack n' play beside our bed, and Kambry has been in a crib converted to toddler bed, but usually ends up in our bed.
I have always rocked my kids to sleep. I admit I don't know how to just lay a baby down, until Kaeleb, who prefers falling asleep on his own. Right before he came home I was still rocking Kambry, but it would take more than an hour and we knew something had to change. So, Daddy would tuck Kayden and Kambry in, then read two stories, and stay in the room until Kambry fell asleep. Somewhere along the way, Daddy got really tired and Kambry decided co-sleeping with Mom and Dad would be better! I've read Sleeping Through the Night and The No-Cry Sleep Solution
but we decided it was something we could cope with until Kambry started sleeping on her own ... and then God placed Mei-Mei on our hearts, and we wondered if we could really rest with three kids in our room!
We made a big deal about getting Kambry a new bed and moving her old bed into Kolton's room for Kaeleb. We all went together and got the bed, Daddy assembled it and the switch was made (as well as disassembling the pack n' play - yeah!). Kaeleb went right to sleep in his new bed. I tried what I call the Super Nanny approach with Kambry, where I briefly explained it was bedtime and put her back into bed the first time she got out. My daughter is stubborn! I stood right outside her room, and eventually she would see me coming to put her in bed and she'd jump back in, screaming until she climbed out again. She would try everything from, "Mommy, where Daddy?" to "Want Daddy," to "Wuv ooo Mommy." An hour later Daddy said we needed to try something different, so I laid beside her bed and held her hand until she fell asleep. Three hours later she came to the safety of Daddy and Mommy's bed. I admit, I'm no expert on sleep issues, and I've always loved spending those last minutes with my kids before sleep ... so maybe Daddy just needs to get a soft rocker big enough for Mommy, Kambry and baby sister :)

7 comments:

Momma Hen said...

I was just thinking today that it is amazing how God knows what each child needs enough to know what family is perfect for them...
Then I read this post and am reminded again just HOW true that is.
So thankful that He knew that "K"s go to Connie and Clayton and that "A"s go to Tami and Chris.
:)
Love you, friend...
Still smiling!
Tami

Pam said...

Oh my Connie! ;) So glad I'm not alone is this! Micah is doing better with his "race car" toddler bed that my mom found at a garage sale. ;) But we still have many, many moments! I hope my #2 is like your Kaeleb!

Anonymous said...

What about letting her fall asleep in your bed, and when she sleeps, you carry her to her own bed? That worked foor us. After a few nights Yinte was used to her own bed and didn't mind to sleep there anymore, so she stayed there, even when she woke up in the middle of the night. Maybe something to try?
Blessings, Angelique

candi said...

There are a million different thoughts on this and I am surprised you haven't gotten more suggestions. My last one the doctor recommended How To Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems, by Richard Ferber. It has tons of scenarios for different circumstances. I own it if you need to borrow it. The sooner the better, I say. Sleep is a wonderful thing for me.

Cindy said...

HI Connie!
You aren't alone w/ the sleep issues, we have them at our house too! Yawn...
I treasure the late moments of night when I can hold and cuddle my kiddos w/ no interuptions and I think they do too, but the sleep deprivation is tough. Hope it improves for you.

And congrats on getting thru the Hague lessons!

Lori said...

I must confess, I can't hold it in any longer. At our house, it's not sleep that is the problem . . . it's finding the time and energy for mommy to take a shower. When I find a few minutes during the day to shower I have to speed through it which I don't like. If I wait until the end of the day when everyone is asleep I'm just too tired to mess with it. Isn't that gross!? My sister is just baffled. So, if you come watch my kids, I'll shower, and I'll give you a full night's sleep. Deal?

;),
Lori

Kitty said...

Hate to admit it, but my eight year old daughter still ends up in my bed most nights! She's the only one I rocked! Rowland says she won't sleep with us when she gets married, but I'm beginning to wonder!!!

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