Sunday, March 9, 2008

March 8, SWI visit Part II

This is precious Aiden. His Mommy and Daddy will be here soon!


Children in Kaeleb's room, estimated ages 7-24 months

Happy cleft-affected girl


Precious boy


Giggling girl

Reserved girl/boy?


Boy?


Precious girl with lots of hair


Girl/boy?



Very happy girl


Precious boy



Active boy


Happy boy


Heart-stealing girl


The twins!

All these babies are paper ready, but do not have parents ... yet!
Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. James 1:27

Saturday, March 8, 2008

March 8, SWI visit

Today began like every other: 1 bed, 4 people. God had given me a peace beyond understanding on this day. I must apologize for the delay in posting, but I got really sick when we were putting the kids to bed, and I didn't feel better until now (Sunday morning 8 a.m.) I think I needed to digest the day and gather my thoughts before memorializing it anyway.

I wanted April to take a picture capturing our happiness at the beginning of the day, just in case it wasn't the same at the end. But it was a good day!

This is our work station, complete with duct tape to hold the plug in the wall! We spend lots of time here blogging, reading and skyping.

April posted lots of pictures of the babies inside the orphanage, so be sure to check out her blog. The trip took us to Foshan, the capitol city, then Nanhai district where the orphanage was. It was about an hour's drive. This was our first visit to our children's orphanage so we really didn't know what to expect or even the questions to ask. As I reflect on our visit, I regret not interacting more with the nannies, but I think I was shell shocked, and trying in vain to guard my heart. This is the indoor play area.

These are some of Kaeleb's caregivers. When they saw him they all lit up and began to talk to him. His nickname was Hao Ga (sp??), which we still call him sometimes, but as I mentioned if the wrong tone is used, it means monkey (quite appropriate however).

Clayton is holding Gang Gang (pronounced Gong), whose American name will be Aiden. His parents are coming to get him soon! He was Kaeleb's cribmate and buddy.

At the main entrance of the SWI, which is an elder care and orphan care facility.

This is April, holding a precious little girl who captured her heart immediately. David, where are you??? Do you see the fit?

This woman is the second-in-charge, Ms. Chen I believe is her name. She is the one who handed Kaeleb to us on Monday! As you can see, he was pleased to see her, but just as eager to come back to Mommy ~ thank you, Lord!

This is Aiden again. He has been bathed in prayer, I assure you!

This lady was one of the Kaeleb's caregiver but also a doctor. She looked at the rash on his tummy when we were there.

These pictures are very significant to us: Kaeleb's empty crib, still bearing his name, Hai Zi Hao.

Over all, this visit was much better than I expected. In truth, I didn't know what to expect, but my prayer was the Kaeleb had bonded enough with us that he would not want to stay at the orphanage (not that that was an option!), thinking that was the best choice. I truly sensed the caregivers love the children, and they receive very good care. They were all in their cribs when we arrived, but it was about an hour before their naptime. April posted pictures of many of the babies, and I'll make another post with baby pix as well. There was a newborn in an incubator, a room for babies five months and younger, which we didn't visit. China law says the children must reach six months of age before they are adoptable. I am estimating 14 babies resided in Kaeleb's room, all of which are paper ready but only one has a family! One little boy was toddling around, and we were told he had a family, but when they came for him they declined him because he was so small ~ oh dear! He is perfectly healthy and well developed. I offered to bring him home! There were seven-month old twins who had been there two months, perfectly healthy. I can't even imagine the circumstances which would lead to the abandonment of children I had loved for 5 months! I will post more about the children in a separate post, but for now I will move on to our "finding place" trip.We had the exact address as placed in the newspaper listing the abandonment of this child, requesting the parents to come forward, as is the case with all children left behind. It was very difficult to find because it was a small street. Our driver asked Taxi drivers, motorcyclists and finally went to the police station. Hmmm, men ask directions in China! At this point I was fighting tears out of fear and sadness. I think I was afraid his "finding place" would be near a trash dump or some undesirable place. Not the case at all! We finally arrived at a small village, very clean, but quite frightening. Clayton even asked if it was safe to enter. Rebecca said she was afraid, but I think her fear was from the guard dog, where ours was being enclosed in this tiny place, and perhaps encountering Kaeleb's kin. After asking many people within the tiny village, we found the doorstep where he was placed as a newborn infant, Number 10.
This woman is the owner of this home, and the gentleman to her right is her father-in-law. Her husband found our tiny Kaeleb at their doorstep and called for another woman to help him take the baby to the hospital. They knew he needed immediate care as he was a newborn, still had wet hair and naval. Upon taking him to the hospital, they told the doctors they would like to keep him, but the staff told them they had no right to this baby. Now is when I began to sob with gratefulness ...
... apparently, the following day a young woman in her early 20s and another woman in her 30s or 40s knocked at the door and asked if the occupants had found a newborn baby. She had a different dialect from the local people. Obviously, Kaeleb's birth mother cared very much for him. I am so grateful to God for knitting him in his mother's womb and for her choice to give him life.As this family was excitedly sharing the story with Rebecca, we were drawing more of a crowd, and each person smiled with glee as if they recognized Kaeleb. Several people were talking at once, and we were hungry for information, just waiting for Rebecca to translate for us. This is the walkway between the homes in this village.


It was this gentleman's wife who helped take Kaeleb to the hospital, and he was so happy to see him. He couldn't stop smiling. He immediately recognized our boy, and commented on how big he is.

We asked Rebecca to tell these people thank you for tending to our son, and they thanked us instead. As I reflect on this day, I marvel at God's magnificent plans. His birth mother carefully placed him where he would be found immediately. The family took him to the hospital right away and even desired to love him forever. He was taken to one of the cleanest orphanages in China to spend the next 20 months of his life. I still cannot understand why he was not petitioned for well before God moved us to do so, but for the fact God was holding him for his Forever Family! And the providence: Our visit was on a Saturday when everyone in the village was home. The father-in-law took us to the home of his daughter-in-law, and then they went to ask the older gentleman to join us. Finally, Rebecca said we should say goodbye or the entire village would soon be at this woman's doorstep. What an amazing day! I will treasure these things in my heart and one day have at least some answers for my son's many questions.

Daddy and his boy after an emotionally and physically exhausting day.

Kambry enjoying a juicy orange at the traditional Chinese restaurant in Foshan.


"I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you." John 14:18

Friday, March 7, 2008

March 7, shopping

A beautiful picture to start a beautiful day! We are very grateful the kids are sleeping.
I will praise you, O Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonders. I will be glad and rejoice in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High. Psa 9:1-2
Daddy and his boy at breakfast.
The beautiful waterfall into the Koi pond at the White Swan.

This is one of the lighter loads carried on a bicycle. Our third trip to China, and we finally decided to have a suit tailored for Daddy! It's going to be beautiful!

Meanwhile, Kambry entertained the other shopkeepers. She's the center of attention everywhere we go! A view of the plaza we shopped today. No, we did not get the spa treatment. We ran out of time doing necessary things ... but we still have 11 days!
I admit when I awoke this morning I was a little discouraged and even frightened. I keep expecting these 'magical' moments as if Kaeleb will instantly snap out of his grief, loneliness, independence and fear. I know so many of you are praying for him, as we are, and prayers were answered today! It was amazing to watch him play, sing, squeal and reach for me. He still will not sit in the high chair, so our mealtimes are a mess with me feeding him and myself as he grabs everything. Today he ate oatmeal, congee and rice cereal. He liked the scrambled eggs but we later found they were stored in his cheeks! The way he plays, I think he's been defending his territory a very long time. He doesn't like to share and he has a pretty good arm. He has screamed each time we've given him a bath, so tonight Daddy got in the tub with him, and he had a blast. It was a whole new experience, and he squealed as he splashed his sister. Probably the most amazing thing was when he walked to me and reached up. He likes being held.
As you know, tomorrow is the orphanage visit. I have been praying about it all day, asking for strength and peace. I finally found peace in knowing that no matter how tomorrow goes I will still bring my son home! I think there will be so many mixed emotions from sadness to joy. I know the plight of my son ~ God has set him into our family, and I am blessed to be his mommy. My fear is the heartache I will feel for those children left behind. We are hoping to have time to hold and pray for each child. We also will take pictures of two very special boys who have families waiting to travel. We will have so much to report after our visit tomorrow. Thank you for your continued prayers and encouragement. Love ~ Clayton, Connie, April, Kambry and Kaeleb ...
The King will tell them, "I assure you, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!" Matt 25:40

Thursday, March 6, 2008

March 6, Botanical Gardens

Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. Heb. 10:23
Look at this absolutely beautiful boy. April took this picture Thursday morning just before we left for the day, as he was preparing to throw a toy.
Kambry, always happy, always singing.
On our way to the Botanical Gardens, in the Ugli Snugli ~ and likin' it!


Taking a bottle break as Rebecca gives us more interesting information. We just love her. She jokingly says of us, "one family, so much trouble." (I think it's a joke :) The 12 Zodiac animals, 2008 being the year of the rat/mouse


The garden has an awesome elevator system!


As you can see, we enjoyed the beautiful gardens today. It was nearly 80 degrees, but we loved it. Both kids have a rash on their trunk, upper back and arms. It looks like heat rash to me, but Rebecca took us to the White Swan Clinic after our tour, and I'm not really sure what they were diagnosed with, but we came home with $40 worth of creams and medication. I gave them Benadryl and used the cream on their rash last night, but they are still broke out. Hmmm. Honestly, some of the other meds I'm afraid to give them. We'll wait and see.
Our day began with the usual breakfast and rushing around to pack the diaper bag:
4 diapers
wipes
2 travel bottles
thermos of hot water
various snacks
camera
cash
more wipes
and we were finally out the door! The Botanical Gardens were beautiful and allowed us to get fresh air and exercise. We had an audience throughout the garden, and most people were so friendly, trying to speak to the children. Kambry just waves hello and bye to everyone. We fed the Koi in the pond, and she really enjoyed that.
Afterward, Rebecca took us to a local noodle restaurant where we could watch them prepare the noodles. She ordered shrimp wonton, beef/mushroom noodle, and pork noodles for us. And Kaeleb had the best-tasting congee I've ever tasted (yes, I had to see how hot it was.) It was delicious and was 80 yuan (just over $10) for all of us.
We then came back to the hotel and went to the clinic, then just relaxed in the room. No shopping Thursday!
Today (Friday) we are going to a large shopping center for April to make a very special purchase, then spa, then shopping. Rebecca told Clayton we need him ... to pay for my spa, watch the kids and carry my purchases!
I am happy to report Kaeleb did not cry a single time we got in the vehicle yesterday. As for the high chair, we're working on it. I had his oatmeal ready to eat, then placed him in the chair, and he cried until Daddy distracted him with a sugar packet. He then sat and ate all his breakfast. He ate his lunch in the Snugli, and supper on my lap because he wouldn't stop crying in the high chair. Bedtime was the same, he cried when I laid him in the crib, so he slept with us.
We saw him open up a little more. As he was playing, he would suddenly let out this little squeal, and when we immitated him, he'd do it again, and smile so big. He actually put his hands on my face today! He feeds me crackers, which is an excellent bonding technic (I don't mind mushy crackers)!
I think all or most adoptive parents ask themselves, "When will I know that he knows I love him?" I asked myself that with the girls, and now it's the same with Kaeleb. As his mother, I just want him to be content and dependent upon me. When he begins to rock himself or cry, I just want to run to the corner, cry my eyes out and come back when he's happy. But God is giving me the hope and strength to see him through these difficult moments. I know they will become less frequent, but the pain I feel for him is unbearable. Is that a Mommy's love? I don't know for sure, but I want us both to heal, and quickly.
Tomorrow we will visit the orphanage, and this will be the first time Clayton and I have been allowed to visit our children's SWI. We have heard most of the time the nannies are so happy to see the children with their parents, and they rush over to grab them and the children cry for Mommy and Daddy. I think I fear that he will actually find the orphanage a place of refuge. That is something we will take to the Father.
I hope you enjoy the beautiful pictures from today, and may you be blessed!
Clayton, Connie, April, Kambry and Kaeleb ...

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