Wednesday, February 29, 2012

New Doctor

Kasidi saw her new doctor today. She wasn't terribly impressed, but her mama and daddy were!

There is so much more we need to know...so he scheduled an MRI and spine x-ray ...and he ordered new AFOs that will give her more flexibility.
What does all this mean? We'll know soon!

And to the princes behind the counter at Burger King who asked if I was Kasidi's grandma...really, girlie? You are the first person to ask - so either I'm lookin' older these days or you're lost in never-never land :)

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

What Does Saying "Yes" Mean to Them?

If the Lord has been prompting you to say "Yes," watch this video.
If you've been telling the Lord "No," watch this video.
These are real children who have experienced the radical difference in their lives because a family said "Yes."



Monday, February 27, 2012

Sometimes!

Sometimes all the time God just blows us away!
When CJ and the Krew got out of church yesterday, this white envelope was under the windshield wipers of the Beast.
We don't know where it came from, but its contents completely cover a very specific need we have this month...which nobody probably even knew about, except GOD!
We don't know who you are, but we thank you for responding to the Spirit, because He's the only One who could have revealed this to you! Our heartfelt thanks to you, and our praises to the Father!

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Happy Birthday, Kenzie LeAnne!

Kenzie....
...you have a gentle spirit, the ability to make everyone laugh and a boat load of talent!
And Dad and I are so blessed to be your parents!
HAPPY 15TH BIRTHDAY, GIRLFRIEND!

B90X ~ Week 9, Ya'll!

We only have 5 more weeks! We can do this...especially since in a couple weeks we'll be in the New Testament!

Monday, February 27 - Sunday, March 4
Mon ~ Jer 33:23 - Jer 47:7
Tues ~ Jer 48:1 - La 1:22
Wed ~ La 2:1 - Eze 12:20
Thur ~ Eze 12:21 - Eze 23:39
Fri ~ Eze 23:40 - Eze 35:15
Sat ~ Eze 36:1 - Eze 47:12
Sun ~ Eze 47:13 - Da8:27

Friday, February 24, 2012

Rally the Troops!

I was thinking of blogging about random things today...and then I read my friend Jean's blog.

Funny how things can turn our plans upside down. Oh, but to remember that nothing takes the Lord by surprise!

Not.even.cancer.

This is Abby. She and her brother came home in December. Abby's mommy and daddy knew she had a potentially serious medical diagnosis before she came home. She has had lots of visits to the doctor in the short time she's been home.

Yesterday it was confirmed that Abby has a form of leukemia. You can read Jean's post here.

Friends, will you please pray for Abby and her family! And let's praise the Father for Who He is! He has brought this precious Treasure home where she will receive the medical care and love that she needs. He is mighty to save!
Lord, I thank You that nothing catches You off guard and nothing is too big for You!

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

The Power of One

"You can't save them all."
Have you heard that before?

The fact that we may not be able to make a difference for 'all of them' is no excuse for doing nothing at all!

My friend Adeye has posted about the miraculous transformation of just a few Treasures whose lives were made radically different because ONE family stepped forward.

And if you follow my friend Linny, you've seen the miraculous transformation God has made in their newest Treasure.

It just takes one family...

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

For the Love of a Brother

We are all happy when Kuyler gets a rare chance to come home...but there is one who is super excited about her "Lyler."
She pretends to be hesitant to share her cookie with him...

...even when he begs.

But then she caves...and gives it ALL!
Because she loves her brother so much and hates to say goodbye.
Oh, for the love of a brother!

Monday, February 20, 2012

Her First Tooth...Missing

We had a slow-paced, fun weekend! Kuyler came home for a visit,
Kambry lost her first tooth...

...and then she carried it around until she literally lost it.

To top off the weekend, the grill master daddy made these!

I love it when all my peeps are in the nest, even if it only lasts a few days.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

B90X ~ Week 8!

Ya'll, we are going into week 8! We're more than halfway through the Bible. I hope you were encouraged and strengthened through the Psalms and Proverbs last week!

Monday, February 20 - Sunday, February 26
Mon ~ Isa 14:1 - Isa 28:29
Tues ~ Isa 29:1 - Isa 41:18
Wed ~ Isa 41:19 - Isa 52:12
Thur ~ Isa 52:13 - Isa 66:18
Fri ~ Isa 66:19 - Jer 10:13
Sat ~ Jer 10:14 - Jer 23:8
Sun ~ Jer 23:9 - Jer 33:22

Saturday, February 18, 2012

She Said...

This is an actual conversation in my house this morning ~

Kinley: Mom, can I go to F*irview with Dad and get a treat?

Me: I said Dad's going to F*irview to get goat feed.

Kinley: Can I go?

Me: Maybe.

Kinley (to her sibs): Hey, she said 'maybe' we can go with Dad and get a treat!

Me: I didn't say that, and I didn't say yes!

Kinley: But you didn't say 'no'!

How'd we get here? :)

Friday, February 17, 2012

Movin' On Up

Good news... we think!
Week after next we have an appointment for Kasidi to see a doctor here in the state who specializes in helping kiddos with spina bifida (and other needs) get on their feet!

Since we stopped using the AFOs, at the recommendation of our therapist a week ago, our Joy has been SO ACTIVE! She's wanted to climb her steps, walk in the parallel bars and toddle around furniture!


Bye-bye, clunky shoes and AFOs...for now. You can't keep this girl down :)

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

We Are Grafted In

"When Love Looks Different" was posted on We Are Grafted In today. If you've never read WAGI, please take a moment to check it out. It's an awesome resource from the real-life experiences of prospective and adoptive parents!

Share the Love!

Happy Valentine's Day 2012!
I know a great way to share the love today.Our friends Jay and Michelle are less than three months from bringing Baby Jacii home from China, and they could sure use our help. Hop on over to their blog and check out their cool tees...and catch a glimpse of cuteness!

Sunday, February 12, 2012

B90X ~ Week 7!

Week 7!!!! Can you believe it? We will be halfway through the Bible in a few days! I pray you are sticking with it...and even if you haven't been able to keep up, remember that no time in God's Word is wasted!

Monday, February 13 - Sunday, February 19
Mon ~ Ps 89:14 - Ps 108:13
Tues ~ Ps 109:1 - Ps 134:3
Wed ~ Ps 135:1 - Pr 6:35
Thur ~ Pr 7:1 - Pr 20:21
Fri ~ Pr 20:22 - Ecc 2:26
Sat ~ Ecc 3:1 - SoS 8:14
Sun ~ Isa 1:1 - Isa 13:22

Thursday, February 9, 2012

When Love Looks Different

What if love looks different than we expect or imagine?

What if love is hard?

What if many don't understand when love looks different?

When we plan to become parents, we have a flood of emotions, including excitement! Particularly as adoptive parents, because let’s face it, no one accidentally becomes an adoptive parent.

As parents, we have great expectations, hopes, dreams and love for our children.

But what if:

~The best way to love them isn’t the easiest way?

~The scars of their past have left an impenetrable barrier to the heart?

~Our love isn’t enough to heal them?

~We know there is One who can, but they can’t fathom it?

~Our tangible kindness causes a response of fear because it is foreign to them?

~They don’t know how to give love back?

What if we love them so much we will do things radical, sacrificial and misunderstood to help them heal?

What does a different kind of love look like?

Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I will give this piece of bread when I have dipped it in the dish.” Then, dipping the piece of bread, he gave it to Judas Iscariot, son of Simon. John 13:26

Jesus knew that Judas would betray him, but it didn’t change His love for Judas!

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” Job 1:20-21

Job had lost everything, and he still acknowledged God’s sovereignty and loved Him!

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

God’s love for us is so great that He came down from glory in the form of a man (yet, completely God) and died for the sin of all mankind.

But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Matthew 5:39-41

Jesus commands us to do the unthinkable ~ love those who wrong us.

Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. “I am willing,” he said. “Be clean!” And immediately the leprosy left him. Luke 5:13

Lepers were untouchable, yet Jesus touched the man because He loved him!

He fell to the ground and heard a voice say to him, “Saul, Saul, why do you persecute me?”

“Who are you, Lord?” Saul asked.

“I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting,” he replied. “Now get up and go into the city, and you will be told what you must do.” Acts 9:4-6

This man who persecuted Christians was loved by God, chosen by God and ultimately devoted his life to sharing that love!

Just a few examples of when love looks different.

I’m a long way from loving like Jesus does, but I am “being renewed day by day.” 2 Cor 4:16

We are relying on the strength of the Holy Spirit as we love all our children, but especially one, in a way that looks different. Truth is, it’s hard. It’s lonely. It’s radical. I would say it’s a sacrifice, but can I really use that term after all that Christ has done for me?

Despite all of that, it is good! We have hope! Not because we always make the right decisions, but because God never makes mistakes. We are standing firm on His promises and watching expectantly as He brings healing and victory to our child!

God alone brings beauty from ashes – from the ashes of our mistakes, our sin, our pain, and our sorrow.

And that is a very different kind of love!

You Haven't Really...

... passed a driver's test till you've passed it in one of these...
...with a bunch of these! *it made for interesting conversation with the exam officer*

Way to go, KOLTON TEE, you farm-boy-can-drive-anything!

Monday, February 6, 2012

From This to THIS!

I'm convinced God doesn't intend for us to stay like this:

Rather, like THIS:
And so He did this!
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. Eze 36:26
Now it is God who makes both us and you stand firm in Christ. He anointed us, set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come. 1 Cor 1:21-22
Set me free from my prison, that I may praise your name. Psa 142:7
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psa 34:18

B90X ~ Week 6 (sorry it's late!)

We are on Week 6 already! Way to go!!!!
As I look ahead to this week, I'm super excited to read through Job and recall his faithfulness to God, in the most dire circumstances. And Psalms always brings me great comfort and encouragement!

Monday, February 6 - Sunday, February 12
Mon ~ Ne 13:15 - Job 7:21
Tues ~ Job 8:1 - Job 24:25
Wed ~ Job 25:1 - Job 41:34
Thurs ~ Job 42:1 - Ps 24:10
Fri ~ Ps 25:1 - Ps 45:14
Sat ~ Ps 45:15 - Ps 69:21
Sun ~ Ps 69:22 - Ps 89:13

Friday, February 3, 2012

Can You See it in the Hug?!?

When the hug is this real, it communicates its own message.

Can you see the 'words'?

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Praise YOU in the Storm


Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all troubles... 2 Cor 1:3-4

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. John 16:33

It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect. 2 Sam 22:33

The Lord lives! Praise be to my Rock. Exalted be God, the Rock, my Savior! 2 Sam 22:47

Sing to the Lord a new song, his praise from the ends of the earth... Isa 42:10

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. Isa 43:2

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isa 41:10

We have so very much to praise Him for! Even if no good thing happened today, He would still be worthy of our Praise because He is God! And yet, He does not withhold His good gifts from His children.

We are wading in the waters of trouble right now, but I CHOOSE TO PRAISE HIM! I cannot change troubling circumstances; I cannot change people...but I know One who can. I also know that all things are for HIS PURPOSE and HIS GLORY, even when they seem like razors to our flesh. I cannot see the big picture (and thank You Jesus, that I can't!). And I know that tomorrow has enough trouble of its own, so I can't worry about it. What I CAN do is immerse myself in Truth, stand firm on Promises and lift my hands in praise...no.matter.what!

Lord, I lift Your name on High!



Sunday, January 29, 2012

B90X ~ Week 5

We are going into week 5 already!
How are you doing?
In 2 days we will hit the 1/3 mark! Seriously!
If there's anything I can do to encourage you or pray for you, please let me know.

Monday, January 30 - Sunday, February 5
Mon ~ 1 Ch 1:1 - 1 Ch 9:44
Tues ~ 1 Ch 10:1 - 1 Ch 23:32
Wed ~ 1 Ch 24:1 - 2 Ch 7:10
Thur ~ 2 Ch 7:11 - 2 Ch 23:15
Fri ~ 2 Ch 23:16 - 2 Ch 35:15
Sat ~ 2 Ch 35:16 - Ez 10:44
Sun ~ Ne 1:1 - Ne 13:14

Saturday, January 28, 2012

$5 for an iPad2?!?

Would you love to have an iPad2?Would you love to help another family bring their Treasure home?
You can do BOTH (for $5!)
Head on over to my friend Traci's blog and check out this sweet deal!

Friday, January 27, 2012

How He Loves Us





I love this song...
and it speaks volumes to me right now!

Happy Birthday Daddy-O!

Tuesday night we celebrated Daddy's birthday.
Thank you, Honey, for being such a godly husband, father and leader...

...I couldn't do this without you!

*I'm embarrassed to post pictures because my camera is getting worse and worse. Mama needs a new camera *grin*

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Salt 'n Pepper

Something’s been rolling around in my heart lately.

Why is it so hard to be salt in this broken world?

Jesus said, “You are the salt of the earth.”

What’s the purpose of salt? It’s to flavor and season. It should change the thing it’s placed upon, making it come to life!

Such is Jesus’ affirmation to us as salt. If our Christian walk has no flavor, if we blend in with the world, we are of no value. But no matter how radically independent we are, most of us have some desire to fit in. Especially when the goin’ gets tough.

Radically following Jesus can be so l.o.n.e.l.y.

So how do we pepper our faith with perspective?

In my flesh, I struggle to NOT view situations only in the present. The present is all I know. But if I truly trust God’s sovereignty (and I do), then I realize that He knows what is for my good and for His glory.

I don’t have to know about tomorrow, and I certainly don’t have to worry about it. I only need to seek Him in prayer and immerse myself in His Word.

I often think of Paul and the amazing transformation Jesus made in his life…and his desire to never turn back no.matter.what.

And sometimes I think of Peter after stepping out of the boat, walking toward Jesus when reality hits him, “Lord, save me!” That's where I'm at now. I just need Him to take my hand - no, pick me up and carry me through some days.

I really want to be radically transformed and radically dependant. Even when it brings loneliness and criticism.

I’m a long way from that, but in Paul’s words, “…if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me – the task of testifying to the gospel of God’s grace.”

Lord Jesus, please help me to be the salt of my environment, and pepper my walk with eternal perspective so that I may joyfully testify of your grace.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Dragons, Dragons and More Dragons

Gung Hay Fat Choy!
Happy New Year (of the Dragon)
Look at this awesome cake!
(Thanks, James and Amy)

Wake up, Kennah!
Two ornery critters!
Bubbles!
Motley Krew!
Stand still, ya'll :) Where's Kayden????
WE HAD A BLAST! THANK YOU, PAIGE, FOR ARRANGING ANOTHER AWESOME EVENT!



Sunday, January 22, 2012

B90X ~ Week 4 Already!

Can you believe we've been reading for 3 solid weeks already?
Here's this week's reading plan:

January 23 - January 29
Mon, Jan 23 ~ 1 Sam 28:20 - 2 Sam 12:10
Tues, Jan 24 ~ 2 Sam 12:11 - 2 Sam 22:18
Wed, Jan 25 ~ 2 Sam 22:19 - 1 Kgs 7:37
Thurs, Jan 26 ~ 1 Kgs 7:38 - 1 Kgs 16:20
Fri, Jan 27 ~ 1 Kgs 16:21 - 2 Kgs 4:37
Sat, Jan 28 ~ 2 Kgs 4:38 - 2 Kgs 15:26
Sun, Jan 29 ~ 2 Kgs 15:27 - 2 Kgs 25:30

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Getting My Groove On

S.l.o.w.l.y. but surely I'm getting my groove in school.

I've come to realize that every spare minute that I'm not preparing a meal, doing laundry, going to work, changing diapers, watching a ball game or checking kids' homework needs to be spent reading, completing assignments, taking quizzes, assembling power points and writing papers.

So far, so good!

I actually love school, and although I never knew what it was called until now, I've finally found what I want to do the rest of my working life! How I wish I only had 45 hours to complete, instead of 70...

Friday, January 20, 2012

Oops!!!!

If you're following the B90X reading plan, you've probably seen my faux pas!
What looked like Isaiah was actually supposed to be 1 Samuel! We really weren't reading from Judges to Isaiah in one day :) Thank you for pointing this out!
~I guess that's what happens when I fail to use my reading glasses~

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Mama's Home!

After two weeks of school, three major medical appointments, and a rush job...I love greetings like this!

Actually, I love greetings like this ALL the time!

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Pint-Sized Trooper!

Even though I asked ya'll to pray for our Kennah girl's surgery, it has been brought to my attention that I failed to report the outcome - so sorry!

She did fantastic!
Our tiny girl has lots of visible issues with her teeth due to her cleft lip and palate, but her pediatric dentist also identified other not-so-visible issues, recommending admission to the hospital for surgery under general anesthesia.

Dr. K told us the surgery would last an hour and a half and she'd take care of 'everything, including any previously undiagnosed problems.' Sure enough, Kennah had an abscessed tooth that needed removed, as well as four cavities filled and four teeth capped.

Occasionally she would point to her mouth as if in pain, but not what I'd consider, "I-have-a-throbbing-tooth-that-needs-to-come-out" kind of pain. I'm telling you, she's a trooper! And now she feels better!

On Friday, Kennah and Kinley will visit the cleft clinic at OU Children's, and I'm sure we'll be scheduling further appointments.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Thank You!

Please accept my THANKS for your comments, emails, text messages and phone calls of encouragement!
I love sharing my heart in this little slice of bloggyland, and I never intend to turn it into a pity party.
Sometimes I share the ugly side so I can show you the up side, thanks to the Lord!
But ya'll have encouraged me SO much!
Thank you!!!! <3

This is how my heart feels most of the time...
...even when my body feels like this - lol!
May the LORD bless you abundantly!!!!!

Monday, January 16, 2012

Confessions of a Frazzled Mom

Just to dispel any myths of me being a SuperMom, let me set the record straight. (But don't tell my kids!)

Yesterday hit me hard. I mean, like a rock! You know how the first week of almost anything is awful? I was ready to quit school, quit my job, just quit!

I began to doubt, blame and criticize myself. I even invited friends to my pity party. Thank you, Lori, April and Diane, for giving me perspective. Thanks for reminding me who I am in the Lord. Thanks for not telling me what I want to hear, but what I need to hear.

As I'm reading through the Bible in 90 days, I often mutter, "You silly Israelites! Can't you see what the Lord has done for you? Don't you remember what He did for you just yesterday?"

So I guess I'm a 'silly Israelite'. How quickly I forget all He has done for me. In times of struggle how easily I let the enemy have his way.

In the midst of chaos, how much I want control, only to realize it is not mine to have.

So this is me....And this is mine... *some clothing may have been removed to reveal the baskets underneath*

And that's not likely to change anytime soon! So I can either complain about it or embrace it, change the things I can change and make the best of what I can't change.

I was ready to quit school and just accept the status quo. After all, at least I have a job, right? Over 22 years ago the Lord built my court reporting business, and I've been self-employed all this time. But I've been searching for something different ... more stable... more meaningful. My passion is not court reporting; it is adoption and families. And since we are a farming family and have so many young'uns, I will likely be working for a very long time, so why not work for my passion?!?

To my fellow reporters and clients, please don't write me off yet because I will continue to work until I am employed as a social worker...and that won't happen till I have a license...and that won't happen till I have a bachelor's degree...and that won't happen till I pull up my big girl panties and do this thing!

Jesus never promised that following Him would be easy. In fact, He promised quite the opposite. In this fallen world it's so hard to accept and apply that truth. My faith challenges me daily as I'm in the classroom. Yes, even in a small university in the Bible belt, there is a temptation to check my faith at the door. I'm determined not to allow that. I will have to set aside my personal feelings as a social worker to meet the needs of others....but I will never have to compromise the faith which defines me or the God who created me... for His purposes *how easy it is to forget why I'm here*.

So, if you're feeling battered by the brokenness of this world, beaten down by the enemy, please remember the Source of all good things! He is the Victor!!!!!

The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge.

He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. Psalm 18:2

Sunday, January 15, 2012

B90X ~ Week 3 Reading Plan!

Week 3 ~ January 16 - 22

Monday, Jan 16 ~ Deut 23:12 - Deut 34:12
Tuesday, Jan 17 ~ Jos 1:1 - Jos 14:15
Wednesday, Jan 18 ~ Jos 15:1 - Jdg 3:27
Thursday, Jan 19 ~ Jdg 3:28 - Jdg 15:12
Friday, Jan 20 ~ Jdg 15:13 - Isa 2:29
Saturday, Jan 21 ~ Isa 2:30 - Isa 15:35
Sunday, Jan 22 ~ Isa 16:1 - Isa 28:19

Hope the Lord is speaking to you as you read. If I can pray anything specific or encourage you in any way, please let me know!

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

This girl!


She's come a long way! We've always seen the ornery side of her, and now we're seeing her silly side. She is blossoming...all 27.6 pounds of her!
Tomorrow morning she's having dental surgery, and I wonder if the Lord places our Kennah Janae on your heart, would you please pray for her?
Surgery is scheduled at 9 CST, for 1.5 hours, and the dentist will x-ray, fill five cavities..."and whatever else needs to be done."
She's had two prior surgeries for CL/CP, but I'm afraid there wasn't anybody there for her, so we pray she will know that her mama and daddy are waiting to comfort her.

Between Sisters ~ video

Kenzie took a video of this conversation between Kasidi and herself :)

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

In Case You Missed It...

This is my son, Kuyler's, comment to my recent post Heartbeat ~ Heartache.
I'm so proud of the way the Lord is growing him... and his dad and I take no credit for that! He teaches us a LOT! He sees our reality when he comes home from college; he sees how very imperfect we are; he sees where we miss the mark. Thank you, son, for loving the Lord with your life!

Mom,Thank you for being open and honest. I love you and respect your initiative in response to God's initiative in your life. I see by your fruit that God is using you. You are so right that we should ask questions and turn to others who have been there. However, I would encourage families who read this blog, as my mother has stated before, to TURN. TO. GOD. The responsibility to which you have been assigned is not a light one.

I love my mother because she loves Christ. I know that she DOES NOT take lightly the responsibility of raising children. The only one who has the power, the love, the will, the time, the grace to save families and guide them in righteousness is GOD.

And when I say "God", I don't mean the distant, unpersonal, merely observing God. I'm talking about the One who wrote the Book on Love. The example of all fathers. The helper of the godly man. The teacher for dads. The only one who knows how to change hearts. Because, just as the verse which my mom posted clearly states, it is not a battle of mere flesh. It is a battle of the spirit and one of massive proportions.

Don't buy the lie that if everyone in your family is happy, then it's okay. You couldn't be more wrong. God disciplines His children. Why? Because He loves them. As fathers discipline their children under the guidance of the Father, children will be offended and scared and confused. The only worthy goal that a father and husband can take on is to speak truth into his children's lives.

Doctors, meds, psychs, other families don't save lost and broken children. God saves them. He has prepared the good works for us to walk in. Therefore, WALK IN THEM. TRUST THE LORD. He wrote the Book. He knows what it means. He knows how that child's life lines up with the truth.

I firmly believe that God has used my mother and father to pull me to Himself. THAT is the job of the father and mother. To walk in the good works that God has prepared and make much of what He has given. Christ paid for you. Christ paid for your children. Does Christ not deserve the reward of His suffering. GIVE YOUR CHILDREN TO THE LORD!!!
Sincerely,Kuyler Johnson

Sunday, January 8, 2012

B90X ~ Week 2!

Here we go, into week 2!
I pray you've gotten into a routine by now.
Please let me know if there is anything specific I can pray for you!
LET'S READ!!!

Monday, Jan 9 ~ Lev 1:1 - Lev 14:32
Tuesday, Jan 10 ~ Lev 14:33 - Lev 26:26
Wednesday, Jan 11 ~ Lev 26:27 - Num 8:14
Thursday, Jan 12 ~ Num 8:15 - Num 21:7
Friday, Jan 13 ~ Num 21:8 - Num 32:19
Saturday, Jan 14 ~ Num 32:20 - Deut 7:26
Sunday, Jan 15 ~ Deut 8:1 - Deut 23:11

He's 16!

It's official ~ I have two 16-year-old boys! (ya'll pray for me, ya' hear!) My camera battery died so we resorted to the phone for a quick pic...Kooper turns 16 today, but being the Mama-who-stays-ahead-of-the-game, (not!) we celebrated yesterday!
Thank you for all the FB birthday wishes ~ they've been shared with him and really made him smile!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SON!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Heartbeat ~ Heartache?


Goodness, my heart has been stirring to write this post for a while now.  But it’s difficult to express..and it may not be received well.  This is not a post encouraging you to adopt.  In fact, it may do just the opposite (although I hope not!).

Every week I receive comments and/or emails from families inquiring about older child adoption.  My silent response is, “If you want the rosy version, read the blog.  If you want the truth, I will share it privately.

I actually prefer prospective adoptive parents to ask me specific questions.  That way I can answer directly without sharing too little or too much.

Let me first say, loud and clear, that if God is calling you to do something, DO IT!  It doesn’t matter how big the obstacles appear, how wide the gap between you and your calling, how strange or untimely it appears, how many nay-sayers you encounter (and you WILL encounter them), if God is calling you to put your faith into action and you don’t do it, quite simply, you are disobedient.

In all honesty, with each of our adoptions I was not nearly as frightened by the needs of our children as I was the prospect of disobedience.  And another truth ~ had we known the demons that plague our Teen Treasure, I’m not sure we would have followed through.  Sad, isn’t it?  That leaves no room for faith…or redemption. 

But that’s one of the things about God’s amazing plans ~ they are so much bigger than we can imagine that we would simply fail without Him!  And the testimony of His faithfulness and the way He instantaneously touched my heart for aging-out kiddos has been a game changer for me.  In those moments when I am so weary I don’t think I can put one foot in front of the other, He whispers, “Remember Me.  Remember that NO THING is impossible for Me.  Remember that I brought you $21,000 in one evening just weeks before you traveled.  Remember that I provided over $47,000 in 9 months to bring home two more Treasures.

Why?  Not because of who I am, but because He loves the orphan; He loves the family; His Love made a way for no one to perish; and His plan is redemption.

Ya’ll know that my heart beats for the orphan.  I love the redeeming plan that God has to bring beauty from ashes in the lives of some of the most desperate children.  To be honest, I would love to adopt again (don’t lose sleep over that one, Mom J)  But like I said, this is not a post encouraging you to adopt.

We in the adoption community (myself included) typically advocate for children.  That’s one way we can love the orphan.  And lately our attention has been drawn to many older children, especially those near aging out.  In fact, around Christmas time we say things like, “All they want for Christmas is a family.”  Or we plead with families who are near travel to consider rushing the paperwork to bring home a child who is running out of time.  And that’s okay…if that’s what God is asking you to do.  It’s not okay if it’s an emotional decision made to ‘save’ a child just in the nick of time.

If your family is considering adopting an older child, I am urging you to make every effort to prepare yourselves.  We have no crystal ball; we have no way of knowing the child’s true personality or how they will respond to the dynamics of our family.  We don’t even know if the information we’ve been given is accurate.  Our Teen Treasure was reported as “artistic.”  Hmmmmm.  He draws stick figures just like his Mama.

I’m not necessarily talking about stocking your shelves with countless books.  I would suggest getting to know families who have taken this journey before you.  Get a variety of scenarios.  Heaven forbid, ask your agency to tell you about problems they’ve encountered with older children acculturating, reasons for families disrupting and resources families have found helpful in times of struggle.  Of course, ask for the good stuff too, because it does exist!

I’m afraid we give the impression that these children will be so grateful for a family that they will quickly settle in …and live happily ever after.  I know families who have had seemingly fairy tale adoption experiences with teens, and then I know families who are struggling.  “Family in crisis” is how it is written into a homestudy.

There are so many reasons a family may be in crisis.  Shell shock, lack of preparation, mis or undiagnosed medical needs, lack of resources.  The last is a biggie!  When a family is ‘in crisis,’ shouldn’t there be somewhere to turn?  Someone with answers?  Oh, contraire!  What do we do?  We turn to one another!  We share our struggles, our triumphs, our prayers, our tears. 

But did you know that if you call a teen heartline you will likely be put on hold?  Seriously!  You finally get up the nerve to seek help, putting aside all fear that someone will blame you, and you get, “All our representatives are busy with other clients.  Please stay on the line and your call will be answered in the order in which it was received.”  Never mind.  I’m probably just imagining this happened anyway.  I’m probably blowing it out of proportion.

Sometimes adopting an older child is really like bringing home 3 or 4 different children ~ a certain emotional age; a different biological age; an even different intellectual age.   And they often act very differently outside the home.  Perhaps the child is apathetic at home but superficially charming and engaging in groups.  This in itself can be exhausting.

Did you know if you seek respite, you will likely get the well-meaning, “Oh, she is so precious.  He loves his siblings so much.  She’s so proud to have you as parents.  He’s a perfect angel.  She’s so helpful; I didn’t even have to ask.”  It’s just another slam to your already fragile perspective.  Another slap in your tear-stained face.

Please hear my heart.  Not every situation is like this, praise the Lord!  And again, I stand firm in my belief that there is NO THING and NO ONE beyond God’s redemption!

The truth is, many of our children come with lifelong baggage stacked one layer after another as a result of institutionalization.  They are forced not only to acculturate from their birth country, but also from the institution, which by the way, is really nothing like ‘typical’ family life.

They have learned so many survival and adaptive behaviors, it can take a lifetime to turn fear into trust.  Yet, we don’t have a lifetime.  We have 6 years?  4?  2?  We must be prepared for a bumpy ride.  It will serve us best if we are prepared to cast our desires and dreams aside, laying it all down for the sake of this child.  

Despite what we might think, bringing home a teen is not like having a ready-made helper around the house J  Or even a babysitter.  It’s more like having an infant who needs our full attention…except they are too big for us to swaddle and rock in the midst of their fits of rage.  And even when they barely know English they seem to know the words that hurt the most.

In many cases it’s especially hard for us Mamas because God made us to love and nurture.  We don’t like rejection, especially from our children.  We have dreams of this precious child cleaving to us as if they’d been entrusted to our care forever.  Teens are naturally becoming independent.  It’s God’s design.  They are not seeking approval of parents as much as approval of peers.  In fact, we parents are pretty doggone stupid by the time our kids are 12 or 13 J  And so we’ve entered their lives at a time of natural transition, and yet it’s so important for bonding and attachment to occur with the family.  It’s completely contradictory, but somehow we have to fight nature and make this unnatural thing happen!

And what happens if our Treasure becomes violent, aggressive or promiscuous?  Betcha didn’t see that in the referral info.  It can be a costly endeavor.  But really, how much is a life worth?

Okay, enough reality.  Again, if the Lord is leading you to adopt an older child, there is nothing that should stop you.  No horror story, no fear of the unknown, no hurtful words of discouragement (oh, that’s the enemy himself!), should keep you from following through with God’s amazing plans!

So what can we do?

First, we can alter our expectations.  Chances are good this ain’t no fairy tale.  But it can be a time of growth!  It’s in these challenging times with no answers that we are forced to turn to the One with ALL the answers, the One who doles out grace unending, Whose strength is unsurpassable, Whose Love is immeasurable…and Who allows us to see ourselves in the mirror each time our child rejects us to the core.  We must keep our expectations low and our hopes high.

We can strive for simplicity.  Keeping a routine without a ton of extracurricular activities and commitments is so important.  I’m not suggesting that life stops here!  Some things just may need to hit the backburner for a while.

As I said before, it’s helpful to have relationships with families who have Been There Done That.  We can glean so much from their experiences and their advice.  It’s so much more helpful to seek out the truth rather than what we want to hear.  I love it when my confidantes hold me accountable to ‘do what Jesus did,’ which is love even the unlovely.

Keep perspective!  Chances are, a season of struggle will not last forever.  As I’m whining to the Lord, I’m often given a glimpse of others who have much deeper struggles.
Bookmark resources!  If you’re in the middle of a battle with your new addition and you have no clue how to respond, surfing the net for that one applicable morsel of truth you read somewhere, sometime will only add to your frustration.  If you find something good, keep it, mark it, print it, whatever you need to do.  And if caught off guard, you can always call a time-out!  After all, you’re the boss-mom, right?!?  I really appreciate Karyn Purvis’ resources!

Pray…and often!    I remember the early days when I’d ask the Lord, “Please give us a good day.”  That’s laughable now.  Soon my prayers changed to, “Lord, no matter what today brings, please give me the grace to respond in a way that glorifies You.”  Ahem…I don’t always do that, just for the record.

Every child deserves a family!  But they deserve a good family.  Not a perfect one, but one willing to make changes to help them through the most difficult transition of their lives.  We owe it to our children to approach their homecoming in prayer and with preparation.   And we must remember that we were created not for ourselves, but for His purposes.

My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  2 Cor 12:9

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.  Eph 6:12

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.  Ezekiel 36:26

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